You're not too much, but you are ready
If anxious attachment or relationship anxiety has you questioning everything - your worth, your partner's feelings, and at times, your own sanity - you're not alone. You're also not broken. But you are ready to do something about it. Here's how we help women heal anxious attachment and / or relationship anxiety. (So that you can do the same too.)
You either avoid dating entirely—protecting yourself from potential hurt—or you jump in too quickly, desperately seeking connection and validation. Dating anxiety is very real and excruciatingly difficult at times. You replay past relationships obsessively. You overthink every dating app conversation. The fear of rejection often prevents you from truly putting yourself out there, creating an internal conflict between wanting love and protecting yourself from hurt. You constantly compare yourself to others who seem to have it all figured out, and the feeling of running out of time weighs heavily on you. The thought of being vulnerable again feels terrifying, yet the loneliness is becoming unbearable.
You analyse every text, every tone shift, every moment of silence. You need reassurance that everything's okay, but it never quite settles the anxiety beneath it. You find yourself picking fights over small things, testing whether they'll stay. You notice any change of behaviour or sign of distance, convinced it means they're losing interest—even when logic tells you otherwise. You obsessively monitor their interactions and social media, searching for clues that confirm your deepest fears. You're desperately trying to predict the future and prevent potential heartache, but this hypervigilance creates an exhausting mental game.
Despite years of shared life, at times, you still fall back into the bad habits. The security of marriage doesn't quell your underlying insecurities, fears & anxieties, often causing you to seek excessive validation. You meticulously analyse changes in routine or affection levels, searching for hidden meanings. You might worry if your spouse still finds you attractive, or if you're becoming complacent, too comfortable or boring. You're still very much aware of any "potential threats", leading to invasive thoughts and a sustained need for control. It can create the painful paradox of feeling profoundly lonely even when you're not alone, struggling silently with relationship anxiety even when married.
Ultimately, relationship anxiety continues to show up, no matter what your relationship status is. It creates an exhausting cycle of overthinking, self-doubt, and emotional overwhelm. It affects your sleep, your confidence, your ability to be present. And the worst part? You know you're doing it, but you can't seem to stop.
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what you need to remember is...
Relationship anxiety affects millions of women, whether you're single, dating, or in a committed partnership. And so the good news is - you're not alone in this. Although knowing this doesn't make it any easier, right? What you do need to remember here is:
This anxiety isn't a character flaw. It's a pattern — and, thankfully, patterns can be changed.
Meet Your coach
Here's a little about me.
I'm the Founder of Your Self Love Story and a Specialist Strategic Intervention Self Love Coach.
I've helped countless women transform their anxious attachment into secure, fulfilling connections, and break unbearable relationship anxiety cycles that feel truly unbeatable at times.
I've also healed my own anxious attachment and relationship anxiety, which was deep-rooted in trauma and toxic relationships... Which is why I KNOW, hand on heart, I can transform the way you feel in yourself & show up in relationships, too.
This is my complete passion and purpose. So, it truly would be the greatest honour to work with you.
Join thousands of women who have started their journey towards building more secure, fulfilling relationships—one gentle day at a time. There's no cost, nothing to lose, just guaranteed support.
a few of the magic keys...
As a specialist coach, I've had the privilege of guiding countless women through the intricate landscape of relationship anxiety. What I've discovered through their journeys, and my own, are profound truths that often go unspoken. These aren't just tips; they're paradigm shifts that pave the way for genuine, lasting healing:
The anxiety you feel isn't primarily about your partner's actions or intentions. It's a mirror reflecting your deepest insecurities and your relationship with yourself. Healing begins when you turn inward and nurture that core connection.
Even if your conscious mind has 'moved on' from past hurts, your nervous system often retains the memory. This somatic residue can trigger anxious responses in current relationships. Healing must involve both mind and body to be truly effective.
Your brain will create elaborate narratives about what your partner is thinking or feeling, but these stories are rarely accurate. Learning to distinguish between your anxious thoughts and actual reality is crucial. Solve relationship conflicts in your head, instead of bringing them to real life.
Seeking constant reassurance from your partner might offer temporary relief, but it ultimately reinforces the anxiety loop. Also, each time you ask for reassurance, you're unconsciously teaching your partner that their natural expressions of love aren't enough. True peace & relationship satisfaction comes from building inner certainty, not from external validation.
Authentic self-love means trusting your gut when something feels off, setting boundaries even when your partner pushes back, and staying true to your values. This is fundamental to healing relationship anxiety because when you don't trust yourself, you constantly seek validation from others. It's not that you can NEVER have doubt. It's just learning when to TRUST those doubts.
The women who heal most rapidly are those who bravely relinquish the desire to control their partner's feelings, actions, or the outcome of the relationship. Trying to control creates the very distance you're trying to prevent. True partnership thrives in freedom, not constriction.
Wondering if you really need this? Then complete our quick 5 minute quiz, and we'll accurately calculate your relationship anxiety level.
let's break it down
There's 3 ways we help women heal anxious attachment and / or their relationship anxiety. Here, allow us to break it down...
Just $90 — Our Most Popular Starting Point
This signature programme teaches you all the essential tools you need to shift from anxious to secure in just 30 days. No fluff, no overwhelm — just practical, proven strategies you can implement immediately.
You'll Receive:
Daily guided exercises and reflections
Evidence-based anxiety-management techniques
Self-love practices that actually stick
Community support from women on the same journey
Downloadable workbooks and resources
7-day money-back guarantee — zero risk
This is your low-commitment entry point to lasting change. Most women see noticeable shifts in their anxiety levels within the first week, so there's no risk, nothing to lose at all.
Your Personalised 12-Month Roadmap
Ready for something more tailored? Then our comprehensive self love plans are a great fit, designed specifically around your unique circumstances, challenges, and goals.
You'll Receive:
In-depth assessment of your relationship patterns
Custom 12-month self-love strategy
Your personal step-by-step action plan (+ toolkit) for overcoming relationship anxiety
Monthly milestone tracking and adjustments
Resource library tailored to your needs
Email support for questions along the way
This plan bridges the gap between self-guided work and intensive coaching, giving you a clear path forward with professional guidance at a fraction of the cost of ongoing therapy. It also has a 100% Satisfaction Guarantee, ensuring you're able to move forward confidently.
— The Full Transformation
This is the gold standard for women ready to fully commit to their healing journey. With six months of dedicated support, you'll have me by your side as you dismantle old patterns and build unshakeable self-love.
The Complete Package Includes:
Monthly private coaching calls (60 minutes each)
Personalised action tasks between sessions
Advanced Strategic Intervention techniques
Unlimited email support throughout your programme
Custom 12-month follow-up maintenance plan
Resource library and guided exercises
Accountability check-ins and progress tracking
don't forget - you can receive free specialist email coaching here
There's no cost, no risk, nothing to lose. Don't click off this page without getting the support which will genuinely help you.
your future self is waiting...
Healing your anxious attachment is like stepping out of a storm into calm sunlight. The constant knot of worry about being abandoned or not being “enough” begins to loosen. You start to trust yourself—your feelings, your boundaries, your worth—so deeply that you no longer need to chase endless reassurance from others. This shift transforms how you connect: you communicate with clarity instead of fear, you hold space for yourself and others without panic, and you stop reacting from a place of scarcity. Instead, you show up as your whole, radiant self—confident, grounded, and emotionally resilient.
In practical terms this means...
Your relationships become healthier and more fulfilling.
If you’re single, you attract partners who respect your boundaries and mirror your self-respect, because you no longer settle for less or tolerate mixed signals.
If you’re in a relationship, you experience deeper intimacy and trust, free from the exhausting cycles of jealousy or neediness. You can enjoy your own company without feeling lonely or incomplete, and you respond to challenges with calm rather than anxiety.
Healing anxious attachment is not about perfection—it’s about reclaiming your power to love and be loved without losing yourself in the process. It’s the real, everyday freedom to feel safe, seen, and whole.
Don't wait anymore. If you're unsure what's the next step for you - schedule a FREE Discovery Call. There's NO cost, NO risk and absolutely NO pressure. It's simply a 15 minute conversation, answering any questions you may have and pointing you in the right direction. Save yourself the "what if's" & speak to someone who truly cares.