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30 Day Relationship Anxiety Challenge: From Anxious To Secure in a Relationship

From Anxious To Secure: Our 30 Day Relationship Anxiety Challenge

Transform from anxiously attached to securely confident, with our evidence-based 30 Day Relationship Anxiety Challenge. Join women all over the world, who've already reclaimed their peace of mind and power.

With a Money-Back Guarantee, there's no risk at all - just guaranteed results. So what are you waiting for?

Does Any of This Sound Painfully Familiar?

The Constant Checking

You find yourself monitoring their every mood and reaction, feeling unsettled when they're quieter than usual, constantly seeking reassurance that everything is okay between you, and checking their phone or social media activity even if you've been together for years.

The Overthinking Everything

You create stories in your head about what their silence means, convince yourself that any chance in behaviour towards you signals relationship problems, and spend hours analyzing whether they seemed less enthusiastic about plans you made together.

The Walking on Eggshells

You bite your tongue instead of expressing your needs, say "I'm fine" when you're not; afraid of being too much for them to handle. Or on the flip side, you might find you're constantly reacting to triggers - blowing up at the slightest thing, instead of being able to control it.

The Lost Identity

You've shaped yourself around their needs, abandoned your hobbies and friendships, and now you barely recognise the person you've become in this relationship. You find yourself saying "whatever you want" instead of expressing preferences, or knowing what you need.

This isn't just "normal" relationship stress. It's relationship anxiety, and it's costing you your peace, your confidence, and your ability to experience genuine, healthy & fulfilling connection. Every day you wait is another day of exhausting worry and missed opportunities for real intimacy.

30 Day Relationship Anxiety Challenge: Overcome Anxious Attachment

Introducing the 30-Day Relationship Anxiety Challenge

A transformative, evidence-based programme specifically designed for women like you who are ready to move from anxious to secure attachment.

This isn't just theory—it's a practical, day-by-day roadmap, combining Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) techniques with Strategic Intervention Coaching, designed to be effective & achievable with clever progressive building.

our challenge format

How Each Day Transforms You

Daily Practice

Each day introduces one focused concept or tool, designed to be completed in 20 minutes or less. Consistency matters more than perfection.

Immediate Application

Every lesson includes a practical worksheet that helps you integrate the learning into your real life that very day.

Progressive Building

Every daily activity & focus builds upon each other, creating compound growth and a strong foundation for lasting change in your anxious tendancies.

Sustainable Transformation

By day 30, you'll have a complete toolkit for maintaining secure attachment patterns in all your relationships.

Why Women Everywhere Are Choosing This Challenge

✔ Evidence-Based & Expert-Designed

Developed using proven psychology, CBT techniques, and coaching strategies not fluffy affirmations that don't work. Every activity is grounded in research that shows real results.

✔ Manageable Daily Practices

Just 10-20 minutes per day. No overwhelming time commitments, no complicated instructions. Each day is broken down into simple, actionable steps you can actually complete.

✔ Comprehensive Yet Simple

Everything you need in one place worksheets, reading materials, practices, and guidance. No hunting for resources or figuring out what to do next.

✔ Lasting Transformation

This isn't a quick fix that fades in a week. You're building neural pathways, establishing habits, and creating sustainable change that compounds over time.

✔ Accessible & Affordable

Deliberately priced at just $3/day so every woman can access this life-changing work. Self-love shouldn't be a luxury, after all inner healing and mental wellbeing is a necessity.

✔ For Everyone, Every Stage

Whether you're 25 or 65, single or married, experiencing mild worry or intense anxiety, this challenge meets you where you are and can be applied regardless of your unique situation.

30 Day Relationship Anxiety Challenge

Grab Our FREE Sample

Download a sample day from the programme, including:

  • One full challenge with detailed instructions

  • The accompanying worksheet

  • Sample pages from our bonus ebooks

See for yourself how powerful, practical, and accessible this programme is. No credit card required—just enter your email and we'll send your free sample immediately.

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the nitty gritty

What's Inside Your 30-Day Transformation

✔️ 30x Daily Challenges

Carefully sequenced activities that progressively build your secure attachment style, from foundational awareness to advanced relationship skills.

  • Self-awareness exercises

  • Communication practices

  • Boundary-setting challenges

  • Self-soothing techniques

  • Relationship reframing work

✔️ 30x Printable Worksheets

Professionally designed worksheets that guide you through each challenge with reflection prompts, tracking tools, and personalised insights.

  • Thought record sheets

  • Pattern identification tools

  • Progress tracking templates

  • Goal-setting frameworks

  • Reflection journals

Optional Extensions

Want to go deeper? Many challenges includes optional extension activities for days when you have extra time or energy to accelerate your growth.

  • Advanced practices

  • Partner integration exercises

  • Deeper reflection prompts

  • Real-world application scenarios

Exclusive Bonuses

When you join today, you'll also receive these powerful resources absolutely free:

Understanding Anxious Attachment Ebook

A comprehensive 30-page guide that explains the psychology behind your patterns, where they come from, and exactly how they show up in your daily life. You'll finally understand why you think and feel the way you do.

Relationship Self-Soothing Ebook

Learn 20+ proven techniques to calm your nervous system when anxiety strikes. From grounding exercises to cognitive reframes, you'll have a toolkit of strategies you can use anytime, anywhere—no therapist required.

Printable Affirmation Cards

A beautifully designed set of 30 affirmation cards specifically crafted to rewire anxious thought patterns. Print them, cut them out, place them where you'll see them daily—on your mirror, in your wallet, beside your bed.

Meet Your coach

Hi, I'm Ell

I'm the Founder of Your Self Love Story, a Strategic Intervention Coach specialising in self love, and the creator of this 30 Day Relationship Anxiety Challenge.

Having personally experienced the exhausting cycle of relationship anxiety, trust me when I say - I understand exactly what you're going through. My own journey from anxious to secure attachment took years of dedicated work, which I've been proud to pull together into this programme for you.

I've carefully designed and combined my very-best tried-and-tested strategic intervention coaching techniques with CBT and psychology, to deliver a challenge that not only worked for me, but which has worked for hundreds of coaching clients, all over the world.

My mission is simple: to make genuine transformation accessible to every woman, regardless of her circumstances. You deserve to experience the peace and confidence that comes with secure attachment and it truly would be a the greatest pleasure to work with you on this.

let's break it down...

Your 30-Day Journey: A Roadmap to Secure Attachment

Together, we'll embark on a transformative 30-day journey designed to systematically guide you from the patterns of anxious attachment & relationship anxiety to the freedom & confidence of secure love. Each week builds upon the last, providing you with a robust toolkit and profound insights to reshape your relational world.

Week 1: Unearthing Your Attachment Story

This foundational week delves into the origins of anxious attachment, helping you identify your unique triggers and the core fears that drive your relational patterns. Through targeted self-assessment and journaling, you'll begin to connect the dots between past experiences and present behaviours, fostering crucial self-awareness.

Week 2: Rewriting Your Inner Narrative

Armed with new insights, week two focuses on deconstructing limiting beliefs and challenging negative thought patterns. You'll learn cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) techniques to reframe your internal dialogue, replacing self-critical voices with empowering affirmations that pave the way for healthier relational dynamics.

Week 3: Cultivating Connection & Boundaries

The third week is all about practical application. You'll master effective communication strategies to express your needs clearly and confidently. We'll explore the art of setting healthy boundaries, both with yourself and others, fostering mutual respect and nurturing authentic, secure connections.

Week 4: Sustaining Your Secure Self

In the final week, you'll learn to integrate your newfound secure patterns into all areas of your life. We'll focus on strategies for maintaining your progress, navigating future relational challenges with resilience, and creating a blueprint for lasting, secure relationships where you feel truly seen, valued, and loved.

let's remove the risk...

100% Satisfaction Guarantee

We get that times are tough. You don't want to risk signing up if you're not sure this will be worth it, but that's why we add in a 100% Satisfaction Guarantee. That's right - if you feel like our 30 Day Relationship Anxiety Challenge ISN'T meeting your needs, let us know within 7 days and we'll offer you a complete refund - no questions asked.

(Please Note: We're proud to say that we have a 100% satisfaction rate to date, after over half a decade of specialist self love coaching. But this should help to give you the extra peace of mind you may need.)

and hey, if you think about it...

Putting The Price Into Perspective

What $90 typically gets you:

  • ONE therapy sessions (if you're lucky!)

  • Or - Dinner and drinks out with friends

  • Or - A new outfit you'll wear a couple of times

  • Or - Monthly gym membership you won't use much

  • Or - A few months Netflix subscription you should really stop binge-watching.

What $90 gets you here:

  • 30 days of specialist online coaching

  • + Lifetime access to all materials

  • + Evidence-based tools that actually work

  • + Skills you'll use for the rest of your life

  • + Peace of mind that's truly priceless

  • + Lifetime community access -- connecting you with like-minded women for support, friendship & genuine care.

the truth is

Less Than Your Daily Coffee - And Purposely Priced This Way

If you look at any other online coaching programme: 9/10 times, you'll never find anything as affordable as this. But it's been purposely priced this way.

Don't confuse our price with the value. This isn't about maximising profit. It's about maximising impact.

We genuinely care about women struggling with relationship anxiety. We understand the sleepless nights, the constant worry, the exhausting mental loops that consume your days. We know what it's like to feel trapped in patterns you can't seem to break.

That's why we've made this programme accessible to women all over the world—regardless of their financial situation. Because transformation shouldn't be a luxury reserved for the few. Every woman deserves to experience secure, peaceful love. And that's exactly what this challenge sets out to do...

Your Questions Answered

What if I don't have 20 minutes every day?

You can make time for anything that's important to you. But the beauty of this programme is its flexibility. Whilst we recommend 20 minutes daily for best results, challenges can be adapted to fit your schedule. Even 10 minutes is enough to make progress—consistency matters more than duration.

Will this work if I'm single right now?

Absolutely! In fact, working on your attachment style before entering a relationship gives you a tremendous advantage. You'll enter your next relationship as your secure, confident self rather than bringing old anxious patterns.

What if my partner isn't participating?

This programme is designed for individual transformation. Whilst partner involvement can be helpful, it's not required. As you change your patterns, your relationship dynamics will naturally shift—often inspiring your partner to grow alongside you.

How is this different from therapy?

This isn't a replacement for therapy or 1:1 coaching if you need professional support. However, it uses the same evidence-based techniques therapists use, delivered in a structured, self-paced format. Many therapists actually recommend programmes like this as homework between sessions.

What if I've tried other programmes before?

It doesn't matter. Would you date a few people then give up if it "didn't work out with them"? No way. You'd keep trying until you found the right person. And, I promise - we're the right challenge for you. The combination of CBT techniques and Strategic Intervention Coaching is our magic key.

Can I really get a refund if I don't like it?

Yes! We offer a complete, no-questions-asked refund within seven days. Simply email us and we'll process your refund immediately. We believe in this programme, and we want you to feel completely confident trying it.

Try Before You Buy With Our FREE Sample

Feeling unsure? Need to know a little more? Then download a sample day from the programme and see for yourself how powerful this programme is. No credit card required—just enter your email and we'll send it over immediately.

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How To Overcome Relationship Anxiety in 30 Days: Anxious to Secure Challenge

  • $90 or 2 monthly payments of $45

Your Secure, Confident Future Starts Now

  • Course
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Imagine waking up tomorrow without that knot in your stomach. Imagine responding to your partner from a place of calm confidence rather than anxious fear. Imagine actually enjoying your relationship instead of constantly worrying about it. That future is 30 days away.

You've read this far because something inside you knows it's time for change. You're tired of the anxiety, the overthinking, the exhausting emotional rollercoaster. You're ready to become the secure, confident woman you know you can be.

You have two choices right now:

  1. Close this page and return to the same anxious patterns that brought you here.

  2. Make a decision to invest in yourself, try something that actually works, and transform your relationship anxiety in just 30 days.

Remember: You risk absolutely nothing with our 7-day money-back guarantee.