Your Self Love Story/30 Day First Trimester Self Love Challenge
First Trimester Self Love Challenge

30 Day First Trimester Self Love Challenge

The first trimester is one of the most emotionally overwhelming experiences of a woman's life - and one of the least supported. This First Trimester Self Love Challenge changes that. Each day, you'll build the tools to feel more grounded, less anxious, and genuinely supported in your pregnancy - instead of simply surviving it.

Built on CBT, somatic and Strategic Intervention frameworks. Evidence-based. Deeply personal. Designed for exactly where you are right now. Because self love in the first trimester isn't a luxury or a mood board. It's the daily, deliberate act of choosing yourself — even when you feel terrible.

7-day money-back guarantee — or start completely free.

Let's cut to the chase

Nobody Tells You It Feels Like This

You took the test. And then - instead of the flood of pure joy you expected - something more complicated arrived. Relief, terror, grief for your old life, nausea that makes you feel like a stranger in your own body, and a secret so heavy you can barely carry it through a normal Tuesday.

You're not broken. You're not ungrateful. You're not doing pregnancy wrong.In fact, research confirms it - first-trimester women experience more identity disruption than at any other stage of pregnancy. The emotional chaos you're living through right now is real, documented, and wildly under-supported.

And yet, the first trimester deserves more than your endurance. You deserve more than being told to wait for the second trimester to start feeling like yourself again. This challenge is an act of self-love. The kind that says: I matter enough to show up for myself, even now.

What You're Probably Feeling Right Now

  • Anxious about whether the pregnancy will stick

  • Guilty for feeling anything other than gratitude and joy

  • Exhausted in a way you've never experienced before

  • Disconnected from your body and your identity

  • Secretly terrified you're not ready for this

  • Completely alone with all of the above

All of this is normal. All of this deserves support.

First Trimester Self Love Challenge | support through first trimester of pregnancy

the science behind it

A Challenge Built on Evidence — Not Toxic Positivity

This isn't a "think positive and manifest your dream pregnancy" programme. Every single day is grounded in frameworks that are clinically proven to work - adapted specifically for the emotional reality of the first trimester.

CBT — The Gold Standard

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is the most evidence-backed approach for anxiety, self-worth, and thought-pattern change. It is the structural backbone of every week in this challenge.

Strategic Intervention

Robbins-Madanes methodology for rapid identity-level change and meaning-making. Used for the days when you need to shift who you believe yourself to be - not just how you feel.

Somatic Practices

Body-based nervous system regulation tools - breathwork, body scans, grounding - that complement the cognitive work and address what the mind alone cannot reach.

Every day is clearly tagged with its framework — so you always know exactly what you're working with and why.

the impact

The Woman Who Walks Out of the First Trimester

The 30 Day First Trimester Self Love Challenge doesn't just support you through the next 30 days. It builds something that belongs to you permanently — for the rest of this pregnancy, and every hard season that comes after it.

You arrive exhausted, anxious, and carrying it alone. You leave with tools, clarity, and proof — in your own words — that you are more capable than the first trimester made you feel.

✔ A clear sense of who you are in this pregnancy

Not who you're afraid of failing to be. Not who everyone else expects. Who you are - grounded, named, and yours. You'll complete the challenge knowing - in writing - who you are choosing to be in this pregnancy.

✔ The ability to catch a thought spiral before it takes your whole day

Thought records, anxiety mapping, and cognitive restructuring techniques you can use independently - for the rest of this pregnancy and the ones that come after.

✔ A body that knows how to come back to safety, even when it no longer feels like yours

Breathwork, body scans, grounding, and movement practices for the moments when thoughts alone aren't enough - and the 3am ones when nothing else works.

✔ A way back to each other — even when you're carrying something they can't fully see

The intimacy gap is one of the most painful and least talked-about parts of the first trimester. This challenge gives you the language and tools to close it - so you don't have to navigate this alone, even when it feels that way.

✔ Quiet for the 'what if something goes wrong' loop — because this fear is different

This isn't general anxiety. It's the specific, relentless hypervigilance of a woman who knows that pregnancy doesn't always end the way it should. We have tools built specifically for this fear - not to silence it, but to stop it running your days.

✔ Morning, evening, and emergency anchors that actually fit your life

Three sustainable self-love rituals built around the real constraints of early pregnancy - nausea, exhaustion, and all. Not aspirational. Built for the days when getting out of bed is the achievement.

📄 A single session with a CBT therapist costs $150–$250. This gives you 30 days of sequenced, first-trimester-specific psychological tools — for just $30.

This isn't a programme you complete. It's a foundation you build — and unlike the first trimester itself, it doesn't disappear when Week 13 arrives.

first trimester advice - how to get through the first trimester

Wherever You're Starting From — This Was Built For You

This Is For You If...

  • You're excited about this pregnancy - and you want to meet it with the same intentionality you bring to everything else that matters to you.

  • The physical and emotional symptoms have hit harder than you ever expected - and you're struggling to feel like yourself.

  • Your feelings about this pregnancy are complicated - although you've never said that out loud.

  • You feel more anxious than excited - and guilty about that.

  • You're keeping the pregnancy secret and feeling the weight of it.

  • You're pregnant after a loss and terrified to feel hopeful.

  • You've been pregnant before and feel guilty about feeling different this time.

  • You're doing this alone - by choice or circumstance - and want support that meets you there.

  • You're in a good place right now, but you want real tools to help you stay there when the hard days come — because they will, and you'd rather be ready.

pregnancy after loss

If You've Been Here Before - and Lost - This Was Written for You Too

If you are pregnant after a miscarriage, a stillbirth, a termination for medical reasons, or any pregnancy that didn't come home — this challenge was still written with you specifically in mind.

The Pre-Challenge Survival Kit

Available to you the moment you join - before Day 1. A standalone resource you can return to any time fear spikes, grief surfaces, or the complexity of this pregnancy feels like too much to hold. It lives outside the challenge structure so it's always there when you need it.

What It Covers

  • Holding grief and hope simultaneously — without one cancelling the other.

  • CBT tools for hypervigilance and intrusive thoughts specific to pregnancy after loss.

  • Somatic practices for a body that remembers what the mind wants to move past.

  • How to use this challenge when you're terrified to bond with this pregnancy.

  • What to do when a scan, due date, or milestone hits hard mid-challenge.

You do not have to choose between protecting your heart and showing up for this pregnancy. This kit helps you do both.

Meet Your Coach

Hi, I'm Ell — The Founder of Your Self Love Story

I'm trained in Strategic Intervention Coaching through the Robbins-Madanes Institute (2022) - one of the most respected coaching methodologies in the world. I've also studied and applied CBT principles extensively, and spent years as a dedicated specialist in self-love, self-worth & personal growth.

What's more, I'm living this alongside you - during my own pregnancy right now. And so, I bring lived-experience to this work too.

The 30 Day First Trimester Self Love Challenge is the programme I wish had existed when I needed it most. It is everything I know about this work — built for the woman you are right now, and the mother you're becoming.

What Women Are Saying

Real words from women who joined the pre-launch programme — from the UK, US, and beyond

— Sarah, joined at 12 weeks

"I came in expecting tips. I left with a completely different relationship with myself. The CBT exercises were unlike anything I'd tried before - finally, tools designed for the specific anxiety that comes with growing a human. I finally understand why my pregnancy anxiety has the shape it does."

— Priya, 34 | joined at 7 weeks, pregnancy after loss

"I'm pregnant after two miscarriages. I was terrified to bond. The pre-challenge survival kit was the first thing I'd ever read that didn't tell me to 'stay positive.' It genuinely did let me hold both things at once. I learnt how to stop waiting for something to go wrong long enough to actually be in my pregnancy."

— Jade, 28 | joined at 9 weeks

"The secret-keeping exercise: I didn't think shaking could do anything. I was wrong. I'd been carrying so much tension in my jaw and shoulders for weeks, and that practice unlocked something I didn't know I was holding. I finished it crying in a way that finally felt like relief, not fear. Groundbreaking moments in this. Highly recommend."

a closer look inside

Challenge Contents

Every day is a complete, standalone practice - clearly structured, never more than you can handle on a hard day. Here's a taste of what's waiting for you inside:

💌 Psst, I've made a couple of things available for you to preview for free. No sign up needed. Just click the button to reveal.

Welcome

Welcome to Your 30-Day First Trimester Self-Love Challenge
📥 First Trimester Physical Symptoms Survival Kit.pdf
📥 Pregnancy After Loss Survival Kit.pdf

Day 1

DAY 1 | Who Are You Right Now?
Day 1 Worksheet | Your First Trimester Baseline.pdf

Day 2

DAY 2 | The Shock Is Real - And It Has a Name
Day 2 Worksheet | Your Matrescence Thought Record.pdf

Day 3

DAY 3 | The Sleep Paradox: Exhausted But Wired
Day 3 Worksheet | Your Sleep & Rest Toolkit.pdf

Day 4

DAY 4 | The Permission Slip
Day 4 Worksheet | Your Permission Slip.pdf

Day 5

DAY 5 | Meeting Your Inner Critic
Day 5 Worksheet | Meeting Your Inner Critic.pdf

Day 6

DAY 6 | The Anxiety Loop - How It Works and How to Break It
Day 6 Worksheet | Your Personal Anxiety Map.pdf

Day 7

📥 BONUS: Your First Trimester Emotional Survival Kit.pdf
DAY 7 | Week 1 Integration - What Have You Learned About Yourself?
Day 7 Worksheet | Week 1 Integration + Your Six Human Needs Audit.pdf

Day 8

DAY 8 | Self-Acceptance as a Starting Point, Not a Destination
Day 8 Worksheet | Your Self-Acceptance Practice.pdf

Day 9

DAY 9 | The Story You Tell About Your Body
Day 9 Worksheet | Your Body Evidence Log.pdf

Day 10

DAY 10 | Anchoring a New Identity
Day 10 Worksheet | Your Identity Anchors.pdf

Day 11

DAY 11 | The Secret-Keeping Weight
Day 11 Worksheet | The Secret-Keeping Audit + Tremor Practice Log.pdf

Day 12

DAY 12 | Emotional Regulation When the Hormones Hit Hard
Preview
Day 12 Worksheet | Your Emotional Regulation Emergency Plan.pdf

Day 13

DAY 13 | Guilt, Ambivalence, and the Myth of the Perfect Reaction
Day 13 Worksheet | The Ambivalence Audit + Double Standard Test.pdf

Day 14

DAY 14 | Halfway: What Are You Carrying That Isn't Yours?
Day 14 Worksheet | The 'Whose Belief Is This?' Audit.pdf
📥 BONUS: Your 12-Week Scan Prep Guide.pdf

Day 15

DAY 15 | Self-Worth Beyond the Pregnancy
Day 15 Worksheet | Your Values Audit + Values-Based Action.pdf

Day 16

DAY 16 | The Comparison Trap in Early Pregnancy
Day 16 Worksheet | Your Comparison Thought Record.pdf

Day 17

DAY 17 | Boundaries as Self-Respect: The Early Pregnancy Edition
Day 17 Worksheet | Your First-Trimester Boundary Plan.pdf

Day 18

DAY 18 | Self-Forgiveness: What Are You Still Carrying?
Day 18 Worksheet | Your Self-Forgiveness Practice.pdf

Day 19

DAY 19 | Anxiety About the Baby: Working With Fear, Not Against It
Day 19 Worksheet | Your Worry Window + Grounding Practice.pdf

Day 20

DAY 20 | The Intimacy Gap: You and Your Partner in the First Trimester
Day 20 Worksheet | Your Intimacy Gap Toolkit.pdf
📥 BONUS: The Partner Guide - What She Needs You to Know.pdf

Day 21

DAY 21 | Week 3 Integration — Your Relationship Audit
Day 21 Worksheet | Your Relationship Audit.pdf

Day 22

DAY 22 | Self-Compassion: The Practice, Not the Concept
Day 22 Worksheet | Your Self-Compassion Practice Log.pdf

Day 23

DAY 23 | Behavioural Activation: Acting Your Way Into Feeling Better
Day 23 Worksheet | Your Nourishment Plan.pdf

Day 24

DAY 24 | Your Needs Are Not Negotiable
Preview
Day 24 Worksheet | Your Needs Audit.pdf

Day 25

DAY 25 | Building Your Support System Intentionally
Day 25 Worksheet | Your Support Team Builder.pdf

Day 26

DAY 26 | A Letter to Your Pre-Pregnancy Self
Day 26 Worksheet | A Letter to Your Pre-Pregnancy Self.pdf

Day 27

DAY 27 | Creating Your First Trimester Self-Love Rituals
Day 27 Worksheet | Your Three Self-Love Rituals.pdf

Day 28

DAY 28 | Your Personal Mission Statement for This Pregnancy
Day 28 Worksheet | Your Pregnancy Mission Statement.pdf

Day 29

DAY 29 | Integration Day — Your Complete First Trimester Toolkit
Day 29 Worksheet | Your Complete First Trimester Toolkit.pdf

Day 30

DAY 30 | You Have Already Found Your Ground — Graduation Day
Day 30 Worksheet | Graduation — Your Before and After.pdf

Your Investment

Everything You Get — And the Peace of Mind to Go With It

Join now for $30 USD — that's $1 a day for 30 days of support.

What You'll Get

✔ 30 Days of Structured Daily Content

Each day is a complete, standalone practice - CBT, SI, somatic, or ACT - tagged, sequenced, and never longer than your energy allows. A new day unlocks every 24 hours so you're never overwhelmed - just today's practice, waiting for you.

✔ Bonus Materials - Regularly Added to Your Portal

New resources added on an ongoing basis, based on what women in the challenge are asking for and experiencing. Your portal grows with you - and every addition is yours, permanently.

✔ Private Community Access - Included Free

A safe, moderated space exclusively for women going through the challenge. Share how a day landed, find support on the hard ones, and feel less alone in what can be a very isolating season. You don't have to post to benefit.

✔ Your Complete First Trimester Toolkit

Built over 30 days, consolidated on Day 29 - every technique, practice, and insight, personalised to you and yours to keep permanently.

Everything you need. Nothing you don't.

🤝 The Risk-Free Promise

Try It. If It's Not Right, We'll Refund You. No Questions Asked.

We want you to feel the work before you commit fully. That's why every purchase comes with a 7-day money-back guarantee.

If you join, engage with the first week of content, and genuinely feel it's not right for you - reach out within 7 days for a full refund, no questions asked.

This guarantee exists for women who are on the fence about whether this is right for them - not because we doubt the programme, but because we know that sometimes you just need to feel it to trust it.

what you may be wondering

Frequently Asked Questions

So how exactly does the challenge work?

The challenge is a 30-day digital programme, accessible immediately on purchase. Each day is a self-contained practice delivered as structured written content - no recordings to sit through, no live sessions to attend. You work through it at your own pace, on your own device, whenever your energy allows. Think of it as a daily companion that fits around the reality of early pregnancy. A new day's content unlocks every 24 hours - so you're never faced with 30 days at once, just today's practice. There's also a built-in progress tracker so you can see exactly how far you've come, right there on your phone.

Can I start immediately after joining?

Yes - the moment you complete your purchase, two things unlock immediately: your pre-challenge bonus material and access to the private community, so you're never waiting alone. Day 1 of the challenge itself begins the following day, giving you time to settle in before the work starts. If you're pregnant after loss, the Pre-Challenge Survival Kit is part of your instant access - so you can go there first if you need to.

What is the private community that's included?

It's a safe, private space exclusively for women going through the challenge - a place to share how a day landed, ask questions, celebrate small wins, and feel less alone in what can be a very isolating season. It's moderated and intentionally kept small and supportive - not a noisy Facebook group. You'll find women at every stage of the challenge, in every situation. You don't have to post to benefit - many women find simply reading others' experiences is enough to feel held.

I'm already 10 weeks. Have I missed too much?

Not at all. This challenge is designed to be meaningful at any point in Weeks 1–13. Every day is a complete standalone practice. You can begin wherever you are and work through the remaining days - or pick the days that resonate most with where you are right now. There is no prerequisite and no catching up required.

What's the difference between the free 3-day challenge and the paid programme?

The free 3-day email challenge gives you a genuine taste of the work - real practices, not a watered-down preview. The 30-day programme goes much deeper: it's fully sequenced, therapeutically grounded across CBT, somatic, ACT, Strategic Intervention and schema frameworks, and builds a personalised toolkit that's yours to keep. The free challenge is a great starting point if you're feeling unsure. The paid programme is the full journey.

What if I'm too unwell to engage some days?

This challenge was built with the physical reality of early pregnancy in mind - not in spite of it. Whether you're dealing with hyperemesis, exhaustion, anxiety, or simply a day where getting out of bed is enough, every practice includes an adaptation note for low-capacity days. On your hardest days, the psychological work can happen lying still with your eyes closed. You don't need to be well to benefit - you just need to be here.

Can I do this alongside my existing midwife or antenatal care?

Yes - and it's designed to complement it. This challenge works alongside whatever care you're already receiving, not instead of it. It fills the gap that clinical appointments can't: the emotional processing, the identity work, the daily psychological support that a 10-minute midwife check-in simply doesn't have time for. Nothing here will conflict with your care team's guidance.

Is this a substitute for therapy?

No - and we're very clear about that. This is a coaching programme built on evidence-based therapeutic frameworks. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, please contact your midwife, GP, or a mental health professional. This challenge is a complement to professional care, not a replacement for it.

I'm not sure I'm ready to invest in myself right now.

That's the most honest thing you can feel right now — and it's worth sitting with. But here's what I've noticed: the women who said 'not yet' during the first trimester often look back and wish they'd started the work earlier, before the mental load of the second trimester set in. This isn't about being ready. It's about giving yourself something to come back to, day by day, at whatever pace feels right. And if you try it and it's genuinely not for you — the 7-day money-back guarantee means you can ask for a full refund, no questions asked.

What if I don't finish all 30 days? Is there a time limit to complete it?

Life happens - especially in the first trimester. If you miss a day, a week, or more, you haven't failed. Your progress is saved and waiting, and you'll know exactly where you got to the moment you log back in. Because you have lifetime access, there's also no pressure to race. Each day is a complete practice in itself, so every one you do counts - whether you complete all 30 in order or not. And if you reach your second trimester before Day 30, you leave with a full, usable toolkit regardless. There is no failure state in this challenge - only the work you showed up for.

Sign Up Now — This Is Where You Begin.

The first trimester is not a waiting room. It is already happening — right now, as you read this. The only question is whether you move through it alone, or with something built specifically to hold you.

Don't delay. Join the Challenge Today — $30 USD. A dollar a day.

🤝 7-day money-back guarantee. If it's not right for you, we'll refund you in full.

before you leave

A Few Final Words From Me...

"When I found out I was pregnant, I honestly couldn't stop crying with joy and gratitude. I was genuinely, completely, disbelief-level happy. And then the first trimester arrived - and it was nothing like I expected.

The exhaustion, the anxiety that I felt was impossible to escape, the heightened emotions I didn't even have names for yet. It was a sharp reality-check and completely threw me off.

That's why I built this. Not from a textbook. From inside it.

And so, if you're wondering whether you really need this — whether now is the right time, whether it's okay to do something for yourself right now - the answer is yes. This - right now, before any of that begins - might be the most important investment in yourself you ever make. And you deserve it. Even more than you know. Not just for the baby. For you.

So, I'll see you on the inside sweetie, and I'm so glad you're here.

With love, Ell x"